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Post by Excel on Dec 12, 2003 13:50:16 GMT -5
Okay...well, I sort of mentioned this on Pychosis, but i'll go into more depth on here, simply because there are more people.
I have a problem. There is this guy (who shall remain nameless (so Chris (ZeldAClown) doesn't go off trying to beat him up) who really likes me. He's the same age as me and he's in most of my lessons at school.
I know that he REALLY likes me, but I just don't feel the same way about him. True, he's handsome and smart and everything, but he just kind of creeps me out, I mean, he's almost fanatical about me really. At one point, he was sending me love letters everyday, and just last week, he sent what looks like a really expensive neckace to my home address. It's one thing to try and give me a gift in person, but it's something else to send it to me in the mail. I tried to give it back to him, but he said that he didn't know what I was talking about and that I should keep the gift.
I really don't know what to do...so what do you guys think? Is this 'normal' male behavior? What should I do?
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Post by renewal on Dec 12, 2003 13:55:54 GMT -5
Well... seems to me that yes he REALLY does like you, but he is trying to buy your affection with gifts and love letters. My question to you is; is he stalking you in anyway or is he smothering you any in a way you do not like?
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Post by Excel on Dec 12, 2003 14:11:24 GMT -5
Well, I don't think he's stalking me...and he awalys seems to keep his distance at school...but I've tried to make it clear to him that I don't like what's he's doing. I even got some of his friends to tell him that if he wants to go out with me, then he will have to become my friend first and sto freaking me out with all of these letters.
I guess maybe he's just really shy, but it's not like I haven't given him a chance to talk to me. Now whenever we talk, it's just me telling him to leave me alone, but I hate having to put people down like that. But even so, the letters keep comming, and that necklace is sitting on my dresser in my room. I haven't worn it...which is a shame because it really is a very pretty necklace.
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Post by renewal on Dec 12, 2003 14:16:40 GMT -5
Hmm... that is very interesting. Yes you are right it seems like maybe he is shy. Well, I do not really have a whole lot really to say except I guess just be nice and try and make peace.
I really do not know what to say about this really.
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Post by Excel on Dec 12, 2003 14:22:32 GMT -5
Well I don't want to encourage him, or make him think that I approve of what he's doing.
I really don't know what to do either, which is why I made this thread. I was kind of hopeful that some of you guys might have some suggestions to get him to stop (non violent suggestions only please, I don't want to hurt him).
At first I thouht I would just wait for him to lose interest, but this has been going on for almost 4 months now.
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Post by renewal on Dec 12, 2003 14:25:41 GMT -5
This has been going on for 4 months now. DANG, now that is crazy. Hmm... Well, if I were you, then I would go up to him and tell him to leave me alone. (of course not in a rudeful way) If that does not work, then just try to ignore him the best you can.
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Post by rocklord2004 on Dec 12, 2003 17:00:51 GMT -5
well id tell him to leave you alone politely. if that doesnt work then its time to get rude and crush his hopes. as for the necklace id take it to a pawn shop and sell it so you can buy something you really want.
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Post by Rauru on Dec 13, 2003 2:04:54 GMT -5
Well I don't think you really want to hurt him do you? If so, then I guess you could take rocklord's advice, but I would go up to him personally and tell him to leave me alone. If that doesn't work, try giving him the silent treatment, or just ignore him like he doesn't exist.
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Post by rocklord2004 on Dec 13, 2003 2:30:01 GMT -5
i still thinkyou should crush his hopes so he leaves you alone. but then again if hes a psycho he could bring a gun to school and shoot some people. but wait guns are illegal there so i guess you dont have to worry about it. (but murder is illegal too so i dont think he would worry too much about the gun thing)
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Post by Rauru on Dec 13, 2003 2:42:15 GMT -5
Yeah I agree with rocklord, I don't think he would be crazy enough to do any harm to anybody. But then again, I don't know him so I wouldn't know.
All the advice I really have for you right now, is to just go with your heart and do what it tells you to.
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Post by rocklord2004 on Dec 13, 2003 2:45:25 GMT -5
nope you really should just crush him and sell the necklace. if its not worth much you can at least buy gum.
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Post by Rauru on Dec 13, 2003 2:49:11 GMT -5
Gum?...  Hmm.... what flavor? I would just go with your intuitions and let your heart guide you, but that's just me. |
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Post by rocklord2004 on Dec 13, 2003 2:55:04 GMT -5
for the last time rauru. crush him and sell the watch.
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Post by Rauru on Dec 13, 2003 3:01:14 GMT -5
Watch? I thought it was a necklace. How about grape or cherry. They are both favorites. But if they have grape though I want it because it's a little more favorite, but if they don't have it, then that's fine because cherry's favorite anyways, but just not as much favorite. |
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Post by Excel on Dec 13, 2003 15:10:40 GMT -5
Well, I don't want to crush him. I'm just not like that, but i've tried telling him to back off more then once...so far, he's admitted to sending me "one or two" letters, but that's it. I tried giving him back everything, but he won't take them...in fact he denies ever sending them to me...even though I KNOW they are from him.  |
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Hmm.... what flavor?